Mayumi and Gretchen Part 2
Freedom.
Dropping out of school and having our own place meant Christian and I had freedom to drink all the time, freedom to do drugs, freedom to have parties, freedom to sleep with whoever, whenever. So, we drank, we did drugs, we had parties. We didn't do much of the other though. I fantasized about calling Rosey up and having her come live with us. I decided I didn't need the intellectual stimualtiong of a bright girl like Gretchen. Someone who was nice, pretty and gave me lots of sex would do. I called Reno information and I failed to locate Rosey.
Christian had a good friend from School named Mayumi. She didn't seem like the type who should be hanging out with us. She was insanely pretty, got good grades in her honors classes and was probably on her way to a good career and a comfortable life. We were both madly in love with her, and neither of us had the guts to tell her we were interested, though I suspect Christian may have made a few drunken advances which were dismissed as drunken advances. I wonder how many beautiful girls are lonely as hell beacuse nobody has the nerve to ask them out. It might explain why they often end up dating jerks.
Roger came to visit one day when Mayumi was over. A summer storm broke out and we hopped into Roger's car to go lightning watching. Stopping at the Cable Access TV offices to borrow a camera we got some great footage, but mostly I watned Mayumi to be impressed that I would be trusted with and know how to operate such a big piece of equipment. Back to our condo, the lightning had let up but it was still raining. Raining and warm, a magical combination. We all jumped into the swimming pool. I went to sit in the sauna and Mayumi joined me. I'd like to think it was because I was a good friend, but it was probably more fear that led me to talk about how cool of a guy Christian was instead of trying to impress her myself now that we were alone, or maybe I was trying to impress her with what a good friend I was.
"I like Christian, but..." she confided in me, "he's too wild right now. I hope he settles down a bit, gets in school, gets his life on track."
"Yeah. I guess we're all pretty wild right now." I was feeling that yeah, this girl was too good for us screw ups.
"You have your videos though. That's a career. You keep doing that you'll probably end up with a good job."
Was she hitting on me? I wasn't sure. She took off and Christian and I got tanked as usual. We saw less and less of Mayumi as our lives got wilder and wilder. We were drinkin' pretty much everynight, smoking lots of weed and trying pretty much anything else put in front of us.
Christian was working at Denny's and a coworker of his invited us to a party. The guests were mostly big jock types. We didn't fit in to well until the beer bong came out. That we could drink all of them under the table despite being younger and smaller had them quite impressed. Christian hooked up with a girl name Shannon. She had a reputation for being really loose. I walked in on her and Chrisitan having sex in one of the bedrooms at the party. It might have been her bedroom. She was unphased by my opening the door. I closed it again and went back to drinking. Within ten minutes Christian and Shannon were back out hitting the beer bong.
The next night a big crowd of us went to Denny's to eat. I might have been flashing back to Junior High and the girl in my P.E. class when Shannon squeezed in between Chritian and I in the booth. Her thigh was pressed against me and I assumed I was welcome to feel it up. My hands stayed busy all through dinner sliding up and down the inside of her thigh. After dinner and a great number of drinks back at our place, Shannon went off on me in front of everybody.
"This little scumbag thinks he can just feel me up under the table whenever he wants." I felt like a little scumbag as she want on and on. I just kept drinking and pretended not to care. She stormed out.
Christian followed but stopped first to let me know his loyalty was still with me but he wanted to have sex a few more times before letting her go.
"Dude, it's my fault. You don't have to break up with her."
"No man, I want to anyway. She's trash. I'll see you later, I'm going over to her house."
Chris did break up with Shannon a few days later. He wanted a "nice" girl. Someone like Gretchen he often said. He encouraged me to get back together with her.
I'd gotten a great job as a video swithcer operator and I didn't have to work much to make ends meet. I called Gretchen up. Predictably I'd begun to miss her again. I'd heard from some friends that she had been fooling around with Roger and this drove me nuts. They weren't an item, she explained to me. She was just exploring her sexuality. She'd given him head in the back of his car.
"I can't stand that you've gone further with someone else than we ever went." I told her. It was a ridiculous reason to get together again but it served it's purpose. We met at Roger's house of all places. His parent's were never around. We made out in Roger's room in the afternoon, the curtains pulled the door locked and she gave me head. He teeth kept getting into the act which hurt, but I was surprised to find I didn't mind and maybe even liked the sensation.
She wrote about the experience in her diary. I found this out after her parents read the diary. The shit hit the fan for awhile. I stayed away as her parents went crazy. She'd sneak phone calls to me late at night and let me know what was going on. She was grounded, counselling was discused but eventually things got almost back to normal.
It's very odd to face a man who knows you've done such things with his daughter, but it wasn't long before Gretchen and I were together again as a couple and with her living at home, I of course had to work to stay in good with her parents. Amazingly enough her mother continued to be fond of me.
They dropped her off at my place so we could go see a movie. They checked the times and would pick her up 15 minutes after the movie let out. They'd apparently made it clear to her that they could show up at the theatre, so we'd better really be going to the film. We walked to the theater enjoying a wonderful summer day and I loved everything about this girl as we held hands and then put are arms around each other, squeezing together. We just couldn't get close enough.
The movie was Sex, Lies and Video Tape. It was sexy and smart and the date felt very adult, even more so as we grabbed a couple of cups of coffee and walked back to my place, as in; not my parent's place. Now if only her parents weren't on their way to get her. The movie was shorter than her folks had been told so we did have a few minutes to spare and we put them to good use making out on my floor, (I didn't even have a bed). In those few minutes we managed to slide our hands down each others pants and to get way too hot and heavy to be happy about hearing the van's horn honking. Her parents were waiting in the parking lot behind my place. As we stepped through the back gate I was sure that we'd left some sign of what we'd been up. I said hello.
"We were waiting out front." I lied. Her dad's face told me that he was to the point of just assuming I was fucking his daughter. It was sad to see such a defeated look and to know that I had hit him where it hurt. Her mom was just thrilled that we were dating again.
Gretchen and I had a few more make out sessions. She was okay with whatever I was into. We could be boyfriend and girlfriend, or just friends who fooled around. It drove me crazy not knowing what she wanted. The thought that she didn't want anything in particular and really was content with whatever was handed to her was even more maddening. I felt it was giving me the irresistable opportunity to be a bad person. I wanted so badly not to be a creep, or not to be a creep anymore. If she would just tell me what she wanted.
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2 Comments:
I can relate to her side of the relationship. I was used off and on for about 9 months by my worst girlfriend, Katina. Anything she said was ok because I was desperate to just have a part Katina's life, be it as a friend or as a boyfriend. When we were on a "let's see other people" phase, I actually did see another person and it drove her nuts. I realized I didn't have to be jerked around by her any more.
My favorite part was when her friend Michelle came over to my apartment with a box of my stuff I'd lent Katina. She said "Katina was finally ready to be your girlfriend". Katina did a bit more trying to convince me to come back to her, but I'd had a taste of freedom and I liked it.
The line from the Police's Wrapped Around Your Finger always comes to mind when I think of the end of that bad relationship: "I will turn your face to alabaster, when you find your servant is your master".
Sorry to vent so, but this chapter brought that to mind.
I get to switch places with her in another relationship, still ahead. I can relate to that desperation. The weird thing with Gretchen was, there was no need for her to be desperate.
I wanted to know what she wanted and I felt like she was pushing me away, not keeping me around, by being so unassertive or passive even.
But, you're probably right. It's probably what she was at least attempting to do. Attempting to keep me happy and accomplishing the opposite. A power balance thing I guess.
And I probably played her role more than I realized later on, when I was desperate to hang on to (well, I haven't decided what to name her on this blog yet.)
We're getting to the part of the blog where the stories are getting longer, where I actually sustain a few relationships and go through mountains of drama.
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